The year 2020 has brought some unexpected challenges. Even the strongest of us find that the Covid-19 pandemic is taking a toll on our well-being. We’re struggling not only on the individual level but are also experiencing distress in relationships with other people, especially our partners.
Suddenly, being in the presence of each other 24/7 without a minimal amount of any other social interaction stirred a lot of trouble between many couples. They found themselves fighting more than usual, even over the most trivial things. Craving alone time also became an issue, especially for those who live in small spaces.
Furthermore, plenty of people had to postpone their plans like moving, getting engaged, or getting married. The pandemic also became an unfortunate occasion for some to find out that they don’t share the same priorities as their partners.
Here’s more on some of the biggest challenges faced by couples during the pandemic.
The stress and anxiety caused by the uncertainty about where the pandemic is going often lead to increased conflicts between couples, which is understandable given how unpredictable the situation is. It’s crucial to realize that you alone cannot do anything about this situation, so they should focus on what can be changed instead of stressing out over what they can’t control. While we can’t predict or do anything about the future, we can deal with the present to make us feel better and let us enjoy being together more.
There’s also the fact that the divorce rates spiked around the world, and some of the relationship experts warn that the break-up curve, induced by the pandemic, may not have peaked yet. Divorce is not an inevitable fate that will meet every couple that goes together through the pandemic. Still, if it’s something that you’re considering, there are plenty of resources on how the divorce works in practice and what you and your partner should prepare for in case you decide to part ways.
Sadly, not all couples have someone to lean on during tough times, and some people have no one but their partner to keep them going amidst all the chaos around them. But, spending too much time with your loved one comes with its own set of potential difficulties.
Those who struggle with depression or anxiety are especially at risk of breaking down during the pandemic due to the loss of their daily routines and activities that used to bring them joy. In those cases, both partners must understand the situation each other is going through.
The best thing you can do is talk to each other about how you’re feeling and what you need from your relationship. You can also try doing things together, like going for a walk or cooking a nice meal. Finally, don’t forget to give each other some space once in a while so you can recharge your batteries and spend time alone doing things that bring you joy.
Many people are changing after experiencing some of the major life stressors caused by the pandemic. What they value in their relationships has, in many cases, changed too, which makes them question whether they should stay with their partners. One way to strengthen your bond is trying new things together with your significant other or meeting up with old friends again. Find ways to engage with each other so you can reconnect emotionally and maintain an open line of communication.
If none of those suggestions helps you feel closer to each other, it might be time to seek professional help from a relationship counselor. A good therapist can help you identify where some of the issues in your relationship are coming from and develop solutions to deal with them.
During the pandemic, many people experience changes that are hard for their partners to understand or accept. Some might experience weight loss or gain due to underlying illness, while others might have emotional problems caused by anxiety, depression, or lack of social interactions. It can cause severe problems in some relationships, such as unmet expectations.
In such a situation, we must try to understand why we see these changes and help each other through it. For starters, it’s crucial to communicate with your partner. Letting everything stew inside us can strain even the strongest relationship, especially when it comes to our partners. Without letting each other know how they feel, couples cannot connect in the way they used to before the pandemic struck.
The whole world is going through a rough patch right now, and there’s nothing we can do about it. We have to support each other in every way we can and do everything in our power to make sure that we don’t lose sight of what matters the most.
This advice is specifically vital for couples, as many of them have to face new challenges every day. If you are in a relationship, you cannot let distress and problems go unresolved, as they’re likely to get worse as time goes on. Instead, focus on improving your communication and address the most burning issues that you spot. This way, you can strengthen your bond with your partner and enjoy the time you spend together.